It’s a big word for three letters




I've been thinking about what it means now, having read Sex God by Rob Bell, knowing most of the ideas that the bible has about it, and how it is in the media, the world and school, and because its suddenly become very real for some people in my ‘crew’

When you're young, it’s easy to understand that sex is saved for marriage, in which case its 'making love' (Which I’m sorry, but is way too cheesy to say that often =P). Sex is just the means to make a baby, and no one really understands it. It’s something that’s laughed at as a naughty grown up word.

Then you grow up a little bit, and you start to be taught about sex in school. You learn the mechanics of it, what to do, how it works, how the baby is actually made. But still, for the most part, you stay away from it. Because it’s just not feasible. Especially at an age where you can’t make your mind up, but mostly because it’s still a grown up thing to do. Its on your mind so much to insult people with what knowledge you have, but they’re even more limited than experience.


Church preaches to save it for marriage. It’s sacred, and God frowns upon multiple sexual partners. Nuns and Monks are celebate, because it distracts them from worship.

When you get to the age I am now, which 16, and you're in a crowd that is male dominated, sex is talked about ALOT. The guys all want it, want to talk about it, and want to race to it, want to pretend they've done it, know what they're talking about..... Etc.
And is it any surprise? Nearly every film we watch involves sex in some way, TV show, drama, whatever it is...There’s a pressure not to become the forty year old virgin.

As a world becomes less religious or faith-fuelled, the rebellion of that is an increase on that which satisfies. In this case, I’m talking about sex.

Because waiting for marriage...Well, in the world we're in now, relationships just don’t last. More and more people are getting a divorce, re-marrying, or not getting married at all.
Sex is just a part of relationship....
Isnt it...?

Because my friends are suddenly discovering that the relationships they have now that they’re older, come with a decision. Do they do what society encourages, or what morality encourages?
Do they want to be admired for saving themselves, or laughed at for not getting any?


School, in later life, teaches us what it is, how to do it, and how we could easily catch an STD, promoting safe sex, etc. But there is no emphasis on what it means morally. Every child in school now knows to use contraception for fear of pregnancy or some disease, but very few people link that to what sex actually is. It’s a huge thing. And it’s thrown away so often, because people think it’s what is expected of them.

I guess this rant has come out primarily because my friends are slowly becoming more and more serious about it, and want advice. But it kind of scares me in a way. Because on the one hand, I’m against it- which comes from my church background. But on the other hand- I don’t see why not.

Which is case in point of an example of modern society’s upbringing.
Ayeyeeeshh :)